Itâs a joke in our family that my grandpa was part gypsy. Never one to stay in one city, one job or stick to one story in a single sitting, Edward Kelly was a man of adventure and of narration. Through his seven children and too many to count grandchildren and great-grandchildren, he most certainly passed along a mix of wonder and disregard for contentment. However, it wasnât until recently that I had a moment of reflection for his disposition in my own life.
Mr. Kelly and I circa 1990
For weeks now, I have been on the hunt for the perfect destination for a trip for P and I to take later this year. To call it a case of wanderlust would be a vast understatement. Itâs almost as if Iâve convinced myself that the countries of the world will slowly disappear if we donât choose the correct ones, all in the right order.
P has reminded how silly this sounds on multiple counts and as per usual, I’ve fought it. As if right on cue this week, that gypsy of mine stepped in. Mr. Kelly sent me a series of these moments that my uncle-in-law would call God moments. A single moment where time drags its feet to a halt, clarity rushes inward and you know without a doubt someone is screaming for you to pay close attention, right at this very moment.
Whether it was truly my Grandpa or my brain finally coming to terms with the “calm yourself down” notion, I canât be sure, but letâs just say Iâm a sap for these types of moments when they happen, and I believe that they truly do.
Cue the God moment.
Kelly moment. Moment of clarity. Whatever you feel like calling them for your own personal well being.
This past Thursday night, my brother arrived in town. For those who donât know, heâs away in Chapel Hill, NC being a super smart astrophysicist. For realsies. I work to discover things on the Internet and he works to discover new solar systems. An even sibling playing field, but I digress. What this boils down to is that we no longer see each other as often as Iâd like.
Erik and I likely searching for dinosaur bones, or pre-historic shark teeth
Thursday night, Erik gets to town. P and I fight Atlanta traffic for what seemed like hours to get to my parents’ house for dinner. As we are sitting around the table (four siblings, two parents, one new husband), likely arguing about why Amanda didnât make her desert sooner and now itâs melting, I noticed a look exchanged between my parents.
A look that took the lust right out of wanderlust, exchanged the a for an o and focused right in on the wonder part.
It was in that quick glance between two people that I understood. The most important places, trips and adventures in the world pale in comparison to the company we keep. That one hit me loud and clear. It was in that moment that I realized, for my parents there was no greater adventure than watching a rare adventure around a dinner table unfold.
These are the important places, because as it turns out, gypsies are more than just nomads. They are a community, a tribe and a connection that forces us to forget that adventure isnât so much of a place, an action or even a destination.
Adventure is a state of being.
A state of joy, of content, of challenge and of support. An adventure that if weâre lucky enough, weâll seek out every single day. I needed that reminder this week. Thanks Mr. Kelly.
PS, if you havenât seen it, please take a moment to watch the short film, The Important Places. It was the icing on the cake and the push I needed to get these thoughts on to digital paper this week.
