Category Archives: Let’s Be Adults

Rewiring Success

23rd February 2013

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A Pinterest favorite, and beautiful artwork found here.

 

I’ve spent the past five and a half months in a women-only leadership program (more on that soon). The experience has been fantastic and has opened my eyes to growing in the workspace, both personally and professionally, but more than anything I have spent a significant amount of time thinking about my future and success.

Before we go any further, let me preface the rest of this by saying, I certainly haven’t reached a come to Jesus, OK I get it, hallelujah moment about where to go next or what my magic yellow brick road of career path looks like (though man, I wish someone would hand that map over).

It has, however, forced me to think about how I define success.

Earlier this week, I read an article about work-life balance which hit the nail on the head perfectly for where I am currently. What if our happiness isn’t about the hours, the balance, the clients or the people alone, but starts with the root of accomplishment?

So it starts here: how do I define success?

The article sites a study where a group of workers was forced to take a night a week away from their smart phones and email. The discussion following was incredibly interesting:

The people who thought themselves addicted to work were really addicted to success and its signals. So if you want to build a team culture where people are encouraged to unplug and renew, rewire the signaling. Cheer when people come in and say that they unplug; slap their wrist when they don’t. Source

Going back to the mechanics.

What if we moved past the lists, the checkboxes and the powerpoint slides and focused on the relationships, the conversations and where work would lead to in the next five years? After all, today and tomorrow will eventually add up to a career, right?

Rewire the system, take a look at the mechanics and maybe this twenty-something can turn those check-lists into change.

Defining Busy: One Year Later

6th February 2013

If you haven’t been able to tell through my past posts, I’m a big fan of nostalgia. Stories, cards, photos, I keep them all. When I stumbled across Timehop a little over a year ago, I was instantly obsessed.

If you aren’t familiar with Timehop, this brillant little app takes your data from across your social networks and delivers it to you in a nice, neat little daily email sharing exactly what you were doing one year ago on that day. You can also download their app for extra love and see back as far as you have been active on a particular social network…posts from freshman year of college are AWESOME in case you weren’t aware.

As much as I LOVE Timehop, it’s not exactly the primary purpose of this post. So back to our regularly schedule programming we go.

A year ago, I posted this to Twitter: Definition of Busy

Working in a client-facing business means I’m constantly pulled in a billion different directions. It’s easy to get wrapped up in the hoopla of it all and share with everyone just how busy you are as if there were some award for having the most miserable schedule. Believe me, I’m guilty too.

A year ago, I challenged myself to remove those words from my vocabulary, I even blogged about the ordeal and how it made a difference in my day.

There will always be a deadline, another project, or something else to check off of the list. It’s only going to get crazier from here – heck, I’m a single girl and I don’t have the responsibility of a cat in my apartment, let alone a husband and children. If I’m completely honest with myself, that future juggling scares me to death.

BUT …

At the end of the day, you are busy doing the things YOU want to. Only you can make the decisions for how you fill your days – that’s one of those great perks of being a grown-up. I’m fortunate enough to be surrounded by some awesome people who are constantly trying to remind me of that, as difficult as that can be somedays.

One year later, I’m still guilty of letting the b-word slip, but it’s a work in progress. Taking time to do things like sit, set goals and blog more are now also on my to-do list. I love this quote from Jessica Lawlor in a recent interview post for Rachel Esterline’s 13 in 2013 series:

The truth is, there is no such thing as work-life balance; there’s just balance.

I couldn’t have even thought to sum it better myself. How do you keep balance between the crazy?

Unfinished Resolutions

13th January 2013

I spent yesterday morning wandering about one of my favorite Atlanta places with some of my favorite people, and a few new friends as well. I could go on and on about the treasures of Scott’s Antique Market for hours (Like the blue Mason jars I scored for $3.75 each – seriously?! – or the dinosaur family that stole my heart), but today I want to focus on something a little different than my love for the unfinished and antique (sort of).

One of the girls I met on yesterday’s group trip is a physician’s assistant, and as I’m in marketing, I love hearing about other’s professional lives that are so different than my own. She told us a story of a patient this week who is in his late 80s, still in relatively flawless health and how she asked him why he thought he had made it this far, his response, “I don’t worry. What ever is going to happen, will happen. There is no sense wasting my time with anxiety.”

So simple, but so powerful. My grandfather passed away a few years ago just shy of his 91st birthday and I can honestly say looking back he embraced much of the same mentality. He held numerous careers, followed his passions and had a love so deep for his large family that I’m not sure how he held it all in.

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We may be a few weeks into 2013, but I know I could certainly resolve to do a little less worrying, a little less stressing and a lot more following my heart and listening to those Bigger than myself. Inspired by this weekend, here’s my slightly late, slightly lofty, but all around possible 2013 resolution list:

  • Worry less, act more
  • Say what’s on my mind – written and spoken
  • Follow my passions
  • Continue to task risks and step out of my comfort zone
  • Move a little slower – take a walk, wonder the market a little longer, resolve to spend more time cooking, reading and running
  • Share the good, the bad and the fantastic moments by myself – and with those around me